Relationship – is the union of two souls. Souls that grow together on the journey of life.
Healthy relationship are build on respect and complete trust towards each other. When you enter the union you don’t change a person to your liking. Your partner isn’t your “Project”, when you fell for them you already new what their “true colours are”, yet many make a mistake and attempt to change those colours. Changing a person in the relationship and moulding them to your liking, is taking away their soul’s freedom.
Unconditional love – is when you love and accept everything about your partner.
I have coached many couples and individuals, I have heard all the reasons why they should just stop being together. I always ask “Why are you still together?”. “For the sake of the children”, let’s talk about two people in one space who can barely stand each other, at times not being able to have a civil conversation without blame game and raising their voices, how is it beneficial for children to witness so much drama between the parents?How is this child going to grow up and have a healthy relationship and happy life? Based on what example? Example of two parents that hold grudges and resentments towards each other? Wouldn’t it be healthier for a child to have two happy, fulfilled individuals that raise him/her, being able to find common grounds and communicate with love and respect?
Another is,” If I left him/her, I would have to start over”, and it’s no longer exciting to get out there meet new people, get to know them, “Better the devil you know”. That is fear talking, fear of letting go of the past and moving forward into the future. Life passes, you get older, the person next to you is the person you settled for, nothing new is happening, you might not argue, but you grow distant and indifferent towards each other. Most common outcome is cheating, in those cases, sooner or later this union breaks, hatred and regrets are overwhelming. Soul is bruised and it needs to heal.
Third is common with women, they stay in the marriage for money. Husband is a person that “Must” provide and take care financially, she doesn’t earn enough, or she doesn’t work at all, for the sake of her financial security, she will play the best role she can and when needed will “look the other way”.
Those scenarios are so not worth wasting your one life, when there is always an option of true love and happiness.
A healthy relationship is when two people move forward in life, love and respect each other unconditionally, trust and are open with each other.
They have mutual and individual goals. Two people, are meant to keep their individuality in a relationship, the essence of who they are. They have open and honest communication, they feel safe to tell each other anything. Word “confrontation” is replaced with communication or dialogue, any issue has a solution in this union. Every success is celebrated with joy, instead of envy and insecurity. There is passion, in spite of how long you are together (I have met people that have been married for over 50 years, and are still intimate with each other). Your partner is your friend, who listens and supports, you do no need outside people in your relationship. You don’t talk to your relatives and friends about your issues with your partner, it is a form of betrayal, towards the person you love.